Ya’ll don’t have any idea how fucking brave and needed these plot lines were.
This was before Ellen came out.
This was before civil unions.
This was before Don’t Ask Don’t Tell.
This was when your ass could be fired, blacklisted, and shunned with no legal protections for even being hinted at being gay.
And the Golden Girls said “Fuck you, Fuck this, we’re doing it anyway.”
I think it should be noted that Blanche’s quote about AIDS is also “It is not god punishing people for their sins” and that the episode also deals with slutshaming.
I don’t know if people realize how much activism these women did for gay right and during the aids crisis. If you think about it they were all long established in Hollywood and Broadway. They had tons of friends personally affected and dealing with the aids crisis. Estelle Getty lost a nephew. I think they helped plant seeds in people who watched Golden Girls that helped make things a little more normalized and mainstream.
a bunch of ppl are on here like Oohh Im asexual and i dont even mean this like that at all. i mean like all the whips and funny little sex toys and rainbow colored plastic bullshit is so looney tunes like cant u guys just have regular sex. whose fucking idea was all that
This post is so ridiculous and low-effort I wasn’t even going to dignify it with a response. But there’s a lot of ignorance and sex-shaming going on in the notes as well, so I’m going to do some debunking. I doubt it will have any effect on the people confidently stating absolute horseshit; but if you’re reading those ill-informed comments and wondering if you’re abnormal, hopefully I can assuage those concerns.
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First off: OP, I really don’t know where to begin with you, but if you’re really that freaked out by non-realistic sex toys, let me assure you that there is also a thriving market for hyper-realistic ones. I have a feeling this is not what you’re actually all twisted up about, though.
Besides the heteronormativity of it all, it’s blatantly incorrect that healthy people don’t need lube. Looking just at people with vaginas, lubrication varies with a lot of factors (including hormones, stress, medication, etc.) that are not incompatible with being “normal” or “in healthy relationships”. Lube increases comfort, decreases friction, and oh yeah, it also reduces the likelihood of prophylactics (condoms, dental dams, etc.) tearing. So yeah, using lube has nothing to do with being abnormal or unhealthy.
This is the sex equivalent of saying “I don’t use pronouns”. When you have what you consider “normal sex”, you are still adopting a role. It’s just that you think your preferred role is “normal” and everyone else’s is abnormal.
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Also just in general, there comments in the notes about being turned off by particular sexual practices—everything from kink to pillow talk—and to that I say: don’t do things you don’t enjoy. It’s that simple. Other people will do those things if they enjoy them, and it isn’t your business and it isn’t “weird” just because you don’t do it.
It’s particularly surprising to me that so many of the ignorant comments share a theme of “people only do this because of the internet” and “clearly none of you have had [normal] IRL sex”. That’s such an antiquated, conservative attitude that I can’t believe it’s coming from people in their 20s and 30s.
I don’t know where you’re all getting these hostile and willfully ignorant attitudes about sex. But this is what’s unhealthy. Lube, sex toys—those things are all perfectly normal. Thinking that using them means there’s something wrong with you or your relationship, and that “normal people in healthy relationships” don’t use those things? That’s unhealthy as fuck, and it’s blatantly wrong, and I am begging y'all to stop confidently saying bullshit on the internet.
When you are immersed in a culture it is easy for your own assumptions and preconceptions to remain invisible to you. But if you spend some time talking to people with different experiences or learning about even one culture other than your own, you can quickly discover how much about what you take for granted as “normal” or default is not written in stone. (And I don’t just mean kink–I mean cultures across history and geography! xx)
And the great thing about this is that it doesn’t mean any particular way is right or wrong or something you have to take on for yourself. It just opens your eyes to perspectives and options you never even knew existed.
And suddenly you have more colors to paint with.
It’s like saying “I don’t understand why you can’t just eat normal food” to someone.
Okay. So what’s “normal” food, jackass? Do you think your idea of what normal is has been informed by the culture you were raised in?
Truly, Tumblr is full of baby Puritans who think they’re progressive.
Anyway, me and my collection of lube, dicks, vibrators and other toys are having incredible sex with my beloved partners. There may be roles involved.
I hope you have whatever sex satisfies you. I sure as fuck am.
LOL at the idea that no one ever heard of BDSM before the internet. The Marquis de Sade wasn’t out here in the 18th century on a MacBook in his prison cell.
